So I can finally say that I am fully #TeamNatural! After transitioning for 1 year and 10 months I finally decided to cut off the last of my relaxed ends. My plan was to big chop once I reached the 2 year mark so that I would have enough length to still wear buns and style my hair the way I wanted to. But the last few months my hair was breaking severely and detangling my hair on wash days became so stressful. I had tried deep conditioning and moisturising more often, but I was still losing a lot of hair every time I washed it. A natural hair page I follow on Instagram were doing an advice session in their stories so I told her about the amount of breakage I was experiencing and she suggested cutting my hair as soon as possible… and she was right! My hair looks and feels so much healthier post big chop.
I chose to cut my hair myself as I wanted to be alone and feel comfortable, I wasn’t sure how I would feel after cutting it, if I would like the way my hair looked, if I feel any different about myself or my hair. But as I was cutting my hair I didn’t really feel anything to be honest, I just wanted to get it done. I did my first wash and go, and after so many years of relaxing my hair it was so satisfying to see the different textures and curl patterns in my hair. I would say that I have 4a hair at the top and the nape, then the rest is a combination of 4b and 4c curl patterns .
It’s been almost 2 months since I big chopped and I have no regrets, in terms of daily styling and night time routines it’s been easier than I thought. I tend to wear one hairstyle for the whole week, so whether it’s a bun, a puff or whatever that determines how I will sleep with my hair at night to make it quicker the next day. My hair is currently collar bone length when stretched and my next goal is to reach armpit length.
The first photo shows my texture after I shampooed my hair
The second photo is an old wash and go, I used the Coil Defining Jelly by As I am
I came across a brand called Uniqurl on Instagram, the products are specially designed for type 4 hair and it’s a black owned company so I decided to give them a try. My hair has been breaking a lot recently so I decided to purchase the ‘Supreme Moisture kit’ to see if this would help. The supreme moisture kit contains a leave in detangler and a moisture sealing oil. Unfortunately Uniqurl products aren’t currently available to purchase in the UK, so I had to order from their US site and pay the international postage.
The aloe and coconut leave in dentangler is really thick, creamy and it smells amazing. The smell reminds me of sweets or some kind of dessert. I used the leave in detangler on freshly washed hair and finger detangled. I would normally use a comb but I found that my fingers just glided through my hair with this product, I did use a very generous amount per section. Afterwards I used the moisture sealing oil which contains sweet almond oil, aloe vera oil, palm oil, vitamin E and coconut oil. The next day when I styled my hair is was so soft, moisturised and smelt great.
I will keep using the two together to see if they help reduce the breakage that I’m experiencing. But I would definitely re purchase the leave in detangler, although the oil worked well with it I imagine I can use any other oil as a sealer.
If you’ve tried any Uniqurl products let me know what you thought!
So my story isn’t one of self discovery or acceptance really, because I actually didn’t plan to go natural. It just sort of happened! My last relaxer was in February 2017, so it’s been 1 year and 8 months of transitioning. I had yet another bad chemical burn so I decided to give my scalp a break. I planned to not relax my hair for at least 6 months just to see if my scalp would improve. But after the first 6 months I didn’t feel like relaxing my hair again. I researched some alternatives like texlaxing then after lots of YouTube videos and reading blogs I decided to quit relaxers altogether!
Like most of us my hair was relaxed when I was a child, I would say I was around 10 years old. I remember my twin sister and I being so excited to get our hair relaxed, we day dreamed about having long flowing hair like the girls at school. When the big day finally came, instead of going to a proper salon my mum took us to a lady who lived locally and did hair from her small council flat. To say I was disappointed with the results was an understatement! Although my hair was straight it was stiff, greasy and frizzy at the ends.
From figuring out what to do with my hair, to discovering cheap hair gel, hair straighteners and weaves my hair has been through a lot. I’m excited to see what my natural hair will be like once I’ve cut off the relaxed ends, this is just the start of my healthy hair journey.